Beacon of hope

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Bright burning candle

Beacon of hope

Flickering fanned flame

Slow burning wick

Feeding the fire

Molten wax dripping

Candle shed tears

Sad lonely candle

Left burning alone

No birthday cake

No blown wishes

Slow steady burn

Defiant flame flickers

No more wax

Wick burned out

Flickering flame dies

Nobody to witness

The candle’s demise

Candle all gone

Wax drippings remain

Spilled candle blood

Laying in darkness

Hope was extinguished 

waiting for peace to arrive

She cared for him while he was sick

A terminal illness that got progressively worse

He fought hard right up to his last few days

Then he surrendered and let go

Telling her he was at peace

She comforted him until he passed away

Her best friend and partner had been taken away

Gone forever without her consent

She was not sure how she was supposed to feel now

She certainly was not at peace with it all

Relieved that his suffering had come to an end

Sorry that he would never be alongside her anymore

Confused that nobody could answer all her big why questions

Grateful for the support of family and friends

Sad that there were so many things left undone

Their list of places to visit together was still pinned up

Should she leave it there as a remembrance 

Asking herself if she should complete that list alone

Or should the list perish with him

She asked herself so many unanswered questions

Her pain and sorrow slowly subsided

Replaced by a numbness that felt much worse

A numbness that blocked her attempts to feel guilty

A numbness that refused to let anger creep in

She felt an emptiness inside that was cavernous 

Bigger than the emptiness left by his absence 

No words of comfort took away the numbness

There were no magic pills to make it go away

Ignoring the numbness did give some brief temporary relief

Until she thought about him or saw something to remind her of him

Then the numbness came back stronger

She never told anybody about her numbness

Afraid that it could be seen as indifference 

She tried to keep herself busy with mundane tasks

There was plenty to do in tidying up his affairs

Time seemed to have slowed down immensely for her

Long lonely days and longer sleepless nights

She did look forward to falling asleep 

Knowing that she would dream about him

He visited her in those dreams

Which felt so real and vivid

He told her in one dream that he would be with her forever

She woke up from that dream clinging to his words

Her emptiness feeling had strangely vanished

Her days were filled with happy thoughts again

Knowing that they would be together again nightly in her dreams

She had finally found peace

oh lazy Sunday

Oh lazy Sunday

Sleeping in late

No energetic tasks

No travel today

All day chilling

Lets skip breakfast

Brunch sounds great

Read a book

Light hearted conversation

Plenty of smiling

We venture outside

An afternoon stroll

Entering park life

Breathing fresh air

Making frequent stops

People watching time

Families out walking

Happy smiling faces

Children at play

Screams of laughter

Grass looks greener

Trees seem taller

Meander back slowly

Home is welcoming

Quiet peaceful place

Take afternoon nap

Time slows down

Dream pleasant dreams

Oh lazy Sunday

How do you cope with the unexpected

Sometimes things do not go as expected

Plans that never materialize

People who break the promises they made to you

Suppliers sell you things that are backordered

Items are delivered damaged or to the wrong address

Accidents occur that destroy things

You or a loved one suddenly fall very ill

The weather brings floods and damaging winds

You drop your reading glasses and they shatter

Extreme cold causes your pipes to burst

New neighbors turn out to be obnoxious and noisy

Your boss at work decides to blame everything on you

You don’t get the pay rise you were promised

Somebody stole your car and its never recovered

Wine gets spilled over your expensive suit 

You drop your cellphone into a sink full of water

The dog is sick all over the bedroom carpet

Your child gets into big trouble at school 

The spring and summer extensive landscaping work is eaten by deer in one night

The TV DVR did not record your favorite show

Dreaded relatives show up at your door unexpectedly

Your credit card stops working when you need to pay for dinner

You cannot find one shoe and you are late for work

You break a tooth while eating popcorn at the movies

Despite your pleading, the policeman still gives you a speeding ticket

Your partner announces they want a divorce

Your employer sells the company and the new management lay you off

The roof starts leaking during a heavy storm

Your pet dog runs away and never comes back

No spare bicycle inner tube and a puncture 30 miles from home

You desperately need a shower but somebody used all the hot water

The list is endless

How do you cope with all these things

The word cope is a big fat clue

You must develop coping mechanisms to deal with life’s problems

Without coping mechanisms you would probably curl up and cry all the time

Coping mechanisms help you navigate through the rough spots

Then you can enjoy the brief moments of peace and tranquility

Until the next unexpected calamity hits you

Use your coping skills to handle the unexpected gracefully

When TMI becomes TMTMI

You are having a conversation with somebody

Its pretty lame mundane stuff

Then all of a sudden without warning

They start giving you too much information

It might be graphic details of a medical procedure

Or details of some uncomfortable bodily function

Perhaps just too much personal information

You want to interject and ask them to stop

But decide to let them go on

Hoping that the TMI is finished

But TMI keeps on flowing faster and deeper

The TMI damage is done now

You cannot unhear what has been said

You try and change the subject but they ignore you

They are determined to unload their grisly TMI story on you

You start to feel repulsed and physically sick

They do not pick up on your feelings at all

Its just one big TMI motherload dumped in your lap now

Like a steaming pile of cow dung

It becomes an information overload

More than your brain wants to process

You start to suffer acute embarrassment

Then thankfully the person moves on and leaves you

You need to rid yourself of all they told you

Visualize a big trash can in your mind

Drop all their words into that trash can

Scoop them all up while they are still warm

Then put the lid on the trash can and wheel it to the curb

It will soon be picked up and emptied 

You will start to feel better quickly

Too much TMI is TMTMI

Apologies if this came to you by email

I can remember opening my first email account

Such a novelty to receive an email in those days

I was only getting a couple every week back then

Fast forward to today with hundreds per week

They come so fast I turned off the bell notification

I no longer respond to emails in real time

I scroll through them every few days

Only opening the ones I deem possibly important

The rest remain unopened and ignored

They probably contain viruses anyway

Every few months I cull the unopened ones

Mass deletions with no mercy

If its old and ignored it gets wiped out

I hardly ever look in my junk email folder

Except when somebody tells me they sent an important email

One that never appeared in my regular email

My junk email folder started to get massive

Literally thousands of unopened emails

I learned how to set rules for it

Now it purges everything more than a month old

Anything more than a year old is deleted from my regular inbox

The important ones  go into folders to keep

I am no longer a slave to my emails

If you need to reach me urgently

Please call or text

Emails are no longer a priority for me

You can have your cake and eat it

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What do you get by mixing flour, butter and sugar

They are the main ingredients of cake

Almost everybody loves cake

We roll them out at birthdays and anniversaries 

Cakes are essential at weddings

Afternoon tea must include cake

So where did the story of cakes start

Who invented the first cake

How did cake become so essential in our lives

Some say the word cake has Nordic origins

Derived from the word ‘kaka’

Which is very unfortunate

Because kaka is the ancient Greek word for poo

Nobody wants to celebrate their birthday by lighting candles in poo

Well nobody that I am aware of

Historians believe that cake can be traced back to the ancient Egyptians

They baked bread laced with honey

Ancient Greeks baked cakes for birthdays of their gods

Adding candles to depict moonlight

Modern cakes have have their roots in the 17th century

When the main ingredients became more accessible

Cake became more popular in the 19th century 

Its was still a luxury item back then

As sugar and chocolate were expensive items

Cake is now firmly established in our lives today

Almost every restaurant offers cake for dessert  

People earn a living making cakes for special occasions

So what is the future for cake

Will low carb and keto kill the cake

Will the war against sugar result in cake collateral damage

What place will cake have in the 22nd century

Life is all about choices

If you like cake then go buy one now

Or buy the ingredients and bake one

Better still buy or bake two or more cakes

Enjoy your cake today

Have it and eat it

Have faith in your football team…..and other important things

My football team won yesterday

The ‘real” football that is

AKA soccer

They used to win consistently 

One of the most successful teams ever

Winning many trophies

Feared by all other teams

But this season has been a bust

Winning less than half their games

Often losing by a huge margin

They went from being invincible

To being timid and afraid

Other teams crushed them

It was painful to watch

But I still watched

Endured the pain

Suffered in defeat

Wallowed in the misery

Dissected all their bad moves

Kept watching and supporting

I had faith they would improve

Recently they turned a corner

Winning their last two games

It feels so good to watch them win again 

I stick with them through bad times and good

Because I have faith

Faith that the coach will motivate them

Faith that they will find their lost magic

Faith that they have the will to win

Faith that the strikers have the skill to score goals

Faith the the defenders will block opponents from scoring

Faith that they will work hard together as a team

Faith that I will never give up on them 

Its essential to have faith in many aspects of your life

Faith In your relationships

Faith in your beliefs

Faith in your choices

Faith in your big decisions

Faith in your family

Faith in those who love you

Faith that your own future will be bright

Faith in your children’s future 

Faith that they will grow up happy and healthy

Faith that you will live a meaningful life

Faith that your team will win their next game

Misty morning

Oh misty morning

Calm and serene

Not a ripple

Water is glass

Flag hangs limp

Covered in dew

No salute today

Sunrise no-show

Hidden behind cloud

Clinging to ground

Bleeding moisture

Everywhere hosed

Wet vegetation

Dripping cars

Damp streets

Soggy sidewalks

Clammy joggers

Moist clothing

Humid air

Muggy morning

Watery weekend

Dewy days

Dank dawn

Oh misty morning

So peaceful

So quiet

So soaking