glue is such a fascinating substance

take a walk down the adhesives aisle at the hardware store

there is a glue for joining almost anything to anything

wood glue, plastic glue, metal glue, glass glue..

but there is one glue that you just cannot buy

its never been manufactured

its human glue, the stuff that bonds people together

the stuff that keeps friendships going

the stuff that creates long lasting relationships

so if it cannot be bought then how do you find human glue

you have to make it yourself

unfortunately there is no human glue recipe book

however there are some well researched ingredients

if you want to have more meaningful relationships

here are some ingredients you should assemble

Availability

being there for somebody

making time for them

showing up at the promised time

answering calls or texts promptly

Vulnerability

taking that big step beyond small talk

sharing your feelings fears and phobias

opening up about traumas in your life

trusting somebody enough to open up your soul to them

Communication

learn the art of listening

repeat back what you think they said

take note of non-verbal signs like expressions and body language

Physicality

touch

intimacy

either platonic or non platonic

everybody needs a hug

Empathy

learn how to feel another persons emotions

understand what they are going through

let them know you understand their feelings

Love

learn how to prioritize another person’s well being or happiness above your own

share your feelings and emotions of attachment, affection and need

Once you assemble all the ingredients you should go out into the world and find somebody to practice with

human glue can be messy

it sometimes comes unstuck

keep trying and eventually it will work

happy human glue making day

the rough rock bounced around

one of many living in the river bed

bumping and grinding

rolling and tumbling for centuries

transformed into a smooth pebble

then he was picked up

taken away as a trophy

gently caressed and loved

at first he was very happy

until he was discarded in a drawer

laying abandoned in the dark

the pebble was sad

he stayed there for many years

until a boy discovered him

he took the pebble everywhere he went

sleeping under his pillow

on his desk at school

for walks down by the river

the boy tossed the pebble in the river

bumping and grinding again

trying to stay deep in the river

better to be pebble in a crowd of friends 

than a lonely trophy pebble