Category: relationships

How to conquer the weeds of jealousy in the garden of your mind

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Jealousy is a powerful emotion

Evoking fear anger and rage

It can destroy marriages and break up friendships

All because of a perceived threat

Of losing something close to you

But that perception can be false

You may be seeing things that are not real

Fueled by your imagination

Jealously then ignites the inferno

Counsellors say do not act on your jealous emotions

That is a lot easier said than done

Emotions are meant to be acted on

Whether saving you from danger

Or making you compete to win

Prevention is better than cure

Far better to avoid being jealous at all

By cultivating trust

Trust yourself

Trust your partner

If you ever feel yourself getting a tiny bit jealous

Stomp all over it with a big dose of trust

Your mind will be a beautiful garden

Without any weeds of jealousy

What does your lady drink?

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If you want it to stay purely platonic

Pour her a small Gin and Tonic

You will always have something to say

To a girl who drinks many pints of IPA

After you pour her third Malt Whisky

Things can get quite frisky

If she loves expensive Champagne with bubbles

It could just be the start of your financial troubles

She is guaranteed to be naughty but nice

If she sips Dirty Martinis with no ice

Sipping a Pimm’s and Lemonade by the pool

Is a sure sign that she is super cool

Stay clear of girls who down Malibu and Cokes

They will never laugh at your witty jokes

She said the fourth Vodka shot was the best she ever tasted

But after three more she will be totally wasted

A Margarita girl just wants to party all night

She will still be drinking when you turn out the light

Its probably best to just stay clear

Of those sassy ladies who only drink sangria

The Hard Seltzer drinking girls are always too thin

Spending all their spare time in the gym

Beware of women who drink nothing but Bloody Mary

If they get mad at you it can be ever so scary

When you meet a lady who adores fine Wine

She could well be your ever loving Valentine

Me rabbit too

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Rupert the infamous drunken randy rabbit

Had a well known but very unpleasant rabbit habit

Of chasing pretty young rabbit girls

And pulling their cute furry rabbit curls

Forcing them to have his wicked rabbit way

Ignoring whatever rabbit words of protest they did rabbit say

Every evening at the rabbit bar drinking his rabbit ale

Rupert told rabbit tales about chasing another rabbit girl rabbit tail

But Rupert did not have a rabbit clue about what he should rabbit do

When one brave rabbit girl started shouting “me rabbit too“

Next time randy Rupert rabbit went out on the rabbit prowl

He was arrested by the local constabulary patrolling owl

No longer boasting his rabbit conquests while guzzling rabbit ale

Rupert was locked up with other delinquent rabbits in the county rabbit jail

Now the me rabbit too girls frolic in the rabbit fields without any rabbit fear

Rupert is behind rabbit bars without rabbit access to rabbit girls or rabbit beer

Its not only cars that need regular maintenance

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Sometimes we get into bad habits in our relationships

Not checking in with each other often enough

Allowing bad communication to create conflict

Bickering at each other instead of discussing solutions

Relationships need regular maintenance

Working on things does not mean they are broken

Just like cars need servicing and homes need TLC

The problem is that its ever so easy to neglect your relationship maintenance

It only takes a few minutes to check in with each other once a week

Put it on your calendar as a weekly event

Pick a subject that needs resolving

Try to reach a mutually agreeable compromise

Then agree which aspect of your relationship you will work on next

Giving you both time to think things over

Follow your successful check in meeting with a date night

It will make that date night so much more enjoyable

Long lasting love requires persistence to keep it on the boil

Swans mate for life

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A couple sat on a bench beside a canal

A pair of majestic swans glided down the slow moving water

Heads held high and proud as they glanced around

Pausing occasionally to plunge their heads under water

Casually grazing on the vegetation of the canal bed

They swam in unison and were never far apart

Frequently rubbing their heads together in a loving embrace

This pair of swans will stay together for life 

When a swan dies their partner may die of a broken heart

The couple held hands on the bench and watched the swans glide by

Just like the swans they were obviously in love and committed to each other

The average marriage in the US lasts only eight years

But this couple tried hard to make it work

Returning to the same bench every year on their wedding anniversary

Watching the same pair of swans glide by 

Many years later the now middle aged couple sat on the bench

The same pair of elderly swans glided by and paused to greet them

Each couple had raised offspring that had left the nest

But they were still together and enjoying another day at the canal

The moral of this story is simple

If you want a guaranteed lifelong relationship then marry a swan

if you are feeling listless

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If you are feeling listless

Make yourself a list

A list of things to do

A list of things to buy

A list of places to go

A list of people to see

A list of things to fix around your home

A list of what you miss most

A list of all your regrets

A list of all the people you have loved

A list of all the people you have hurt

A list of all the people you have lost

A list of all the people who bring you down

A list of all the people you admire

A list of all the people you lust for

A list of all the clever people you know

A list of all the dumb people you wish you had never met

A list of your favorite songs

A list of all the songs you hate

A list of the best TV shows to watch

A list of books you must read

A list of things to pack for your trip

A list of all the things you forgot to take on that trip

A list of all the things you should never have taken on that trip

A list of all the mistakes you made on that trip

A list of all the funny things that happened on that trip

A list of all the random thoughts you had yesterday

A list of all the swear words you use when things are going bad

A list of the languages you want to learn

A list of all the language classes you started but never finished

A list of the times you said nothing instead of apologizing

A list of 

A list of every list you ever wrote

A list of your list lists

Are you still feeling listless?

failed escape

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He closed the door

Not looking back

Walking briskly 

Well before dawn

Big strides

Cold night air

He was leaving his wife

While she slept

Without a goodbye

Or an explanation

Tired of arguing 

Too many fights

Time to escape

To a better life

He left his stuff

Tainted possessions

Relationship baggage

Too painful to carry

Drove away purposely

He was only ten minutes away

He felt liberated

Stopping to buy food

Reaching for his wallet

He could not find it

Remembering where he left it

He rushed back home

Tip-toed into the house

Avoiding the creaking steps

Stealthily into the bedroom

Picked up his wallet

Looked at his wife for one last time

She was still sleeping

She looked so peaceful

He felt remorse

Giving her one more chance

He undressed

Slipped back into bed

Fell asleep beside her

Dreaming of his next escape

She woke him with a kiss

He decided to stay

Maybe things would work out

She went to the bathroom

He was hoping for some snuggle time

But she came back seething

Complaining how untidy he was

Said he needed to clean up more

Accused him of being a lazy slob

Then they started arguing

He decided to leave tomorrow morning

Shifting paradigm

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Full moon

Romantic swoon

Starry skies

Starry eyes

Holding hands

Making plans

Wine flowing

Expectations growing

Evening bliss

Romantic kiss

Anticipating more

Bedroom door

Next morning

Constant yawning

She sleeping

Him tweeting

Loud snoring

Very boring

Nudging awake

No heartache

Alcoholic breath

Relationship death

She leaving

No grieving

Romance gone

Television on

Football time

Shifting Paradigm 

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