If you steer a cruise ship are you in control?

In control of the speed and direction

But not of the destination and itinerary

Somebody else controls that

If you are a farmer are you in control?

In control of the seeds you sow and harvest

But not in control of the weather

Somebody else controls that

If you conduct the orchestra are you in control? 

In control of the musicians actions on the stage

But not in control of how well the listeners appreciate the music

Somebody else controls that

If you hold the TV remote are you in control

In control of selecting the buttons to press

But not of the programs being broadcast

Somebody else controls that

If you are in love are you in control

In control of your own feelings and actions

But not the feelings and actions of your partner

Somebody else controls that 

If you call a press conference are you in control?

In control of the statements you make

But not of the resulting press reports

Somebody else controls that

If you are the Commander In Chief are you in control?

In control of the world’s most powerful military 

But not the actions of your advisories or political opponents

Somebody else controls that

If you eat well and exercise are you in control?

In control of your nutrition and fitness

But not of the timing and nature of your own (non-suicidal) death

Somebody else controls that